Welcome back to Man Crush Monday every Monday in March! This whole month is still being dedicated to my awesome boyfriend! So as many of you know we are in a semi-long distance relationship. I say “semi” because it is only a 3 hour drive door-to-door. I know many people who have done much longer so in a way I feel pretty blessed that we are able to see each other every other weekend.
I was pretty hesitant to enter into another long distance relationship. I did long distance with my ex who traveled full-time for work and he ended up cheating on me. So needless to say I was nervous but had to keep reminding myself that these were two different people and we “got this!” So like I have said in earlier posts, things couldn’t be better. Which had me thinking about offering up some sort of advice for surviving long distance.
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff
I know I sound like a coach but it’s true; by small stuff I mean, don’t fight about dumb stuff. What is dumb stuff? Oh you know, getting mad that they didn’t text you back right away, or assuming the worst if things feel off sometimes. Feeling “off” is natural so I’ve to realize.
2. Find a routine
Our routine is pretty good, Chris calls me everyday when he leaves work and I check in periodically at night. I’ve gotten used to the fact we won’t talk much during the day because he is uber busy at work. After becoming okay with this, things really started to work out better.
3. Get to know yourself again
When you find yourself with a lot more alone time on your hands it’s important to get back to basics with yourself. I started really finding my own groove throughout the days and especially on the weekends. Blogging more, working out even more, it helps me out so much to make sure that I still have a life, a life separate from Chris. It’s good to have a life together but when you’re doing distance, forgetting about yourself can lead to depression and anxiety.
4. FaceTime and Skype are your new BFFs
I love that Chris has an iPhone again because FaceTime is AWESOME! We try to FaceTime a lot, as well as talking on the phone. When we lived together in RI we texted a lot but now that we are not in the same state, hearing each other’s voice is extremely important.
We have made it 6 months through our distance and have 1 more year to go before I can move out to NJ. I’m almost done with school (that is what is holding me back) and I can’t wait to start that new adventure. Some of you know I have terrible anxiety so I have been trying to really get my head straight and work out my own issues, there is nothing worse than taking out your own frustrations on the other person. This has helped us so much moving forward.
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? What are your words of wisdom on getting through such a difficult time? Tell us in the comments below!