Welcome back to Man Crush Monday every Monday in March! This whole month is still being dedicated to my awesome boyfriend! So as many of you know we are in a semi-long distance relationship. I say “semi” because it is only a 3 hour drive door-to-door. I know many people who have done much longer so in a way I feel pretty blessed that we are able to see each other every other weekend.

I was pretty hesitant to enter into another long distance relationship. I did long distance with my ex who traveled full-time for work and he ended up cheating on me. So needless to say I was nervous but had to keep reminding myself that these were two different people and we “got this!” So like I have said in earlier posts, things couldn’t be better. Which had me thinking about offering up some sort of advice for surviving long distance.

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1. Don’t sweat the small stuff

I know I sound like a coach but it’s true; by small stuff I mean, don’t fight about dumb stuff. What is dumb stuff? Oh you know, getting mad that they didn’t text you back right away, or assuming the worst if things feel off sometimes. Feeling “off” is natural so I’ve to realize.

2. Find a routine

Our routine is pretty good, Chris calls me everyday when he leaves work and I check in periodically at night. I’ve gotten used to the fact we won’t talk much during the day because he is uber busy at work. After becoming okay with this, things really started to work out better.

3. Get to know yourself again

When you find yourself with a lot more alone time on your hands it’s important to get back to basics with yourself. I started really finding my own groove throughout the days and especially on the weekends. Blogging more, working out even more, it helps me out so much to make sure that I still have a life, a life separate from Chris. It’s good to have a life together but when you’re doing distance, forgetting about yourself can lead to depression and anxiety.

4. FaceTime and Skype are your new BFFs

I love that Chris has an iPhone again because FaceTime is AWESOME! We try to FaceTime a lot, as well as talking on the phone. When we lived together in RI we texted a lot but now that we are not in the same state, hearing each other’s voice is extremely important.

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We have made it 6 months through our distance and have 1 more year to go before I can move out to NJ. I’m almost done with school (that is what is holding me back) and I can’t wait to start that new adventure. Some of you know I have terrible anxiety so I have been trying to really get my head straight and work out my own issues, there is nothing worse than taking out your own frustrations on the other person. This has helped us so much moving forward.

Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? What are your words of wisdom on getting through such a difficult time? Tell us in the comments below!

Cheers!

xoxo Lindsay

14 Comments on Surviving Long Distance

  1. Krysten
    March 23, 2015 at 11:37 am (2 years ago)

    When my husband and I met he lived about 5 hours away on the opposite side of Wisconsin from me. We did the long distance thing for about…. almost a year before he moved out here.

    It can be hard. But at the same time we were getting to know each other and it was fun to talk for hours on the phone, write long emails, and just get to know each other without all the physical stuff getting in the way. We saw each other about once or twice a month but the distance kind of allowed us to get to know each other in a way that we wouldn’t have been able to had we lived closer together. And it also made the times when we did see each other SO special.

    I was also going through a divorce at the time and the long distance also allowed me time to get to know myself again. It helped me to make decisions that I needed to make for myself, with a clear head.

    All in all despite it being hard I really think it made us AND me stronger.

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    • Lindsay Carreiro
      March 23, 2015 at 12:25 pm (2 years ago)

      I love hearing about the the success stories! Thanks for reading and sharing your story. I really appreciate it!

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  2. Andrea
    March 23, 2015 at 11:39 am (2 years ago)

    I was in a long distance relationship for 3 and a half years…but we made it! I think the best advice I could give is to trust one another. It can be hard to overcome the distance between you if you don’t 100% trust the other person! We were about 3 hours away so similar to you. Being apart taught us a lot about communication and that has proved helpful as we moved forward in our relationship, too. I’d also say to try and do the mundane things together…stuff like grocery shopping and just watching tv. Toward the beginning of our LDR we always felt the need to have awesome dates when we were together since we didn’t see one another as often as most couples. It’s still fun to have the great dates, but mixing it up with the regular little things is good.

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    • Lindsay Carreiro
      March 23, 2015 at 12:25 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh yea, when I go and visit we still do the mundane things as well! Trust is huge, so hard to keep those irrational fears in check!

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  3. TheOguide
    March 23, 2015 at 12:20 pm (2 years ago)

    I just got out of a long distance relationship. It went great for a year, but once we hit different time zones (England vs Chicago) it became incredibly difficult. I think the key is to ALWAYS make sure you’re on the same page and be constantly communicating. If you’re not on the same page it wont work.

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    • Lindsay Carreiro
      March 23, 2015 at 12:22 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes I can imagine that would be very hard! If he was further away I probably wouldn’t be doing it.

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  4. Isabel
    March 23, 2015 at 12:30 pm (2 years ago)

    These tips are SO true! I was in a LDR for almost 2 years and every form of mobile communication was our best friend 🙂 Now we are married, so I guess we kind made it through the torture!

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  5. Lindsay F (@LiNdSaY6288)
    March 23, 2015 at 3:38 pm (2 years ago)

    I can’t log in by Google+ so twitter it is….

    Aren’t relationships in the beginning so much fun? Talking on the phone for hours into the wee hours of the night and truly getting to know each other beyond the surface level.

    LDR’s can be hard but not if both parties are both willing and wanting to make it work. It just makes for times when you meet up that much more special. 😉
    xo

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    • Lindsay Carreiro
      March 23, 2015 at 5:44 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes time together is the biggest thing, I love to optimize the time we have together. I’m heading down this weekend, can’t wait!

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  6. Kat
    March 23, 2015 at 5:06 pm (2 years ago)

    I’ve never done a long distance relationship…well, maybe sort of. He was in another town during the week and flew back every weekend. Nowadays technology is so awesome you never feel all that separated. Good luck! 😀

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  7. Vicky
    March 24, 2015 at 10:10 am (2 years ago)

    I have never done the long distance thing, but these sound like awesome tips! I think these work well for relationships that aren’t long distance too…even when someone is in the same town, it’s important to still have your own interests and do your own things. I think you guys are building a strong foundation for when you are back in the same town together :-)…nice job!!

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    • Lindsay Carreiro
      March 24, 2015 at 10:14 am (2 years ago)

      Thank you! It’s def not ideal but we are making it work! I hope we are doing all the right things so when it comes time for me to move there we will be in a better place.

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